Summer Obsessions

For a teacher, summer is a sacred time when a tiredass caterpillar can metamorphosize into a rad freakin' butterfly.  You have the opportunity to become new.  You can re-invent yourself! With 8 weeks of boundless potential my brain gets excited and synapses in a thousand different directions.

So far this summer I am inspired to make changes in order to be authentic to the feelings I want to feel and the things I want to do.  After attending a local workshop called #ownyourhappy put on by Amber at Brand Love and Emily Ballard, I have spent a week or so just ruminating about a question posed there.  Many truth statements precipitated throughout the day but this one still has me going.




The Question:
 If you could do anything (money/skill/time/childcare/education are not an issue) and knew that you would be wildy successful at it, what would you do?

  -Sub-question for myself:
  -What would you do if you weren't afraid about what someone else would think?

So far here is my list (in a verbal vomit order):

..... I would write children's books/board books with sassy-ass blog post in the back for the mamas.


..... I would buy a yellow motorcycle and re-teach myself how to ride.

....I would have a garden including vegetables and fruit trees and lots of basil. I love pesto.

.....I would get more tattoos.  On my arm.  Yeah, in a visible place.  Who cares.

.....I would create a line of little girl clothes with embroidery on those weird bloomer underwear things: like, "If I'm crawling, I'm falling.  So I guess, in turn I would use my sewing machine more.

..... I would teach a year of 8th grade science entirely centered around trees.  I love them.  Trees are great friends and good neighbors- as well as producers of oxygen. Just sayin'

..... I would work again as a pharmacy technician at an independent pharmacy.  There was something about make small talk with elderly people that I absolutely loved.

..... I would wear more random logo t-shirts, bigger earrings and funky headbands made out of tribal looking fabric.

.....I would move to another country for the summer and immerse myself in a new language. First Italian.  Ciao Bella!

If you could do anything...and would be great at it, what would you do?  #yourlist

Holding the Envelope - My Messy Beautiful

The mess started with falling in love- it always does, doesn’t it?  I got engaged, moved in with my fiancé, got a new job, bought a house, got a dog, got married, went on amazing Italian honeymoon, got pregnant, got pink slipped, got rehired, had a baby, suffered from postpartum depression and voluntarily checked myself into a behavioral health unit for treatment: All. Within. Two. Years. 

Yep. That’s a lot. You’re thinking it. It’s ok.  I totally agree.

If I am required to talk about emotional chow-chow my feelings, I usually say I had a “rough time,” after my son was born or my son had a “slow start.” It sounds, …..well…glossier....almost “status update”-worthy.   But truth statement: it was pretty freakin’ gritty. 

You would never guess by the way my son and I currently interact that:

I spent the 1^st week of his life in the hospital recovering from preeclampsia while he was taking his sweet ass time regulating his body temperature, weight, red blood cell and glucose levels.  I spent the second week of his life in a casserole induced haze and the 3^rd week of his life in legit denial that I had produced another human.  By the 4^th week of his life I was having exhaustion fueled hallucinations as well as suicidal ideations and his fifth week voluntarily in a psych ward.

….I returned home from the hospital on a Monday – (I think).  My co-worker and his wife stopped by to meet my son. (Just to be clear I had no idea that they were coming because we had made plans during week 4 and my phone was confiscated when I entered the unit during week 5.)  I thought I held it together pretty well during their visit. Hahahahah! Later on my friend told me I spent the entire visit walking around my house, holding an envelope, trying to decide where to set it down. 

You see.. I descend from two family lineages, which lovingly converge into a large artery of addiction, depression and anxiety.  Thank goodness my husband is a patient, kind and light hearted guy, otherwise our mini-humans would be doomed! But I am not my past or my genetics.  

In this moment: 

I am a bold youngish mother.  I am a slob. I am practical. I am impulsive. I read Star magazine, make my own baby food and adhere to the 5 second rule.  I force myself to do sentimental things.  I am a science teacher -kind to my students and hypercritical of myself.   I am a firm believer of God AND Evolution Gasp!  And even though some days my lows are so low, that I put myself in time out/throw things/question what the heck am I doing ……. I love my son so fiercely that I ache.  By the time he was about three months old, I felt like things were a whole lot more manageable.  Turns out, the love I have for my son trumps the tense grip anxiety and depression have on me.  So, when my son was about a year and a half- the hubs and I decided to have another baby…..because our lives weren’t busy enough. #sarcasm.

  It wasn’t until the final trimester that I had time to stop and think hey, I am preggo, perhaps I should reflect about this and naturally I started to panic.  I would cry hysterically and mutter to my husband:  What am I thinking having two mini humans?!  What if I go to the bad place again?!  What if the depression is even worse, what if I can’t do it? what if, what if, what if?

His response? “Well if we did it once (meaning survived the bad place), we can do it again if we need to.” Good point hubs.  And that was that. 

My daughter’s birth was uneventful.  She came out super healthy, went right to the boob and knew what to do.  She rarely cried.  I snuggled her.  It was peaceful.  While my hot tempered two year old was literally hanging from the light fixture as I nursed....my daughter was so incredibly laid back, it was laughable!  I am still exhaling.  I did it!  It was nothing like the first time!  My past did not dictate my future!  My heart explodes with joy as I see my two children interact, neither of them knowing their beginning stories and how different they are – unless my 2 ½ year old reads my blog.  Honestly…I wouldn’t put it past him. 

  This essay and I are part of Messy, Beautiful Warrior Project.  To learn more  CLICK HERE!